It’s About Time ...the clock is ticking!










I have fond memories regarding my formative years. For one, I never missed a meal. Due to my father’s excellent cooking, I looked forward to gathering at the dinner table.  Dad made the best fried chicken in town. It was his claim to fame. Neighbors enlisted him to cook his special dish for every party on the block.

One day I breezed through our kitchen as he worked on a batch of golden fried poultry. My father looked up from his task and asked me to stay so that he could teach me this culinary art.

I smiled, and politely declined thinking there was plenty of time to learn trade secrets from this home chef. As it turned out, the clock ran out. I did not respect time.

I have a friend, let’s call her Kelsey. She never arrives anywhere on time but comes prepared with an excuse, sometimes creative, sometimes reasonable, often quite lame. Kelsey does not respect time.

My cousin Jimmy has been known to totally blank out on appointments. He claims he practices calendar management, but on occasion admits to losing track of the moments that lead to hours. Jimmy  clearly lacks a respect for time.




Valuing Time

What’s my point? My friends and I are guilty of disrespecting the one thing that stops for no one, time. The late author and motivational speaker, Jim Rohn, aptly sums it up for us:

“Time is of more value than money. You can get more money, you cannot get more time.”

At some level, we can all gauge of how much time is worth. If this article were about time management, or work life balance, I would direct you to a website to help you track and gain productivity. But, today, that is not my message. I’m talking about respecting time.

Time Analysis 

Right now, do a deep dive on your treatment of time. In fact, it might be helpful to drop down to the bottom line. How much time do you think you have left on this earth? Perhaps, 20, 30 or 40 years? Maybe more, maybe less?

As you contemplate time, quiz yourself. What exactly do you want to accomplish in the years remaining? Are you on the right path? Given the limited supply of your banked hours, how can you manage your time to live life filled with happiness and peace while adding value to those around you?











Those are personal questions only you can answer.

Time to Change

I will never have the opportunity to learn the art of frying chicken from my favorite chef. Life dealt a difficult lesson, but it taught me to revere the clock.  Value your time and the time of others. Remember, it’s a limited commodity.


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Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

Big dipper at Southend funfair

The other day a client’s email crossed my desk: “Sunny…I am in the process of spending a few days in Orlando enjoying my favorite theme park. Yesterday I waited patiently in line to board a roller coaster –which is something I never do! My purpose was to execute one of the items on my ‘Facing my Fears,’ list, a topic we discussed in coaching. They strapped me in. Closing my eyes I said a quick prayer and as I was instantly plunged into the air at a frightening speed…you were the last image I remember before indulging into my terrifying journey. At the end of the ride I was happy to have survived and thrilled with myself for dealing with the unknown.”

I laughed heartily and applauded my client for stepping far afield of her comfort zone to deal with fear. Then I added “take a roller coaster ride at the next opportunity” to my fear list. It is something I haven’t done in years probably because I’ve turned chicken. Riding a coaster is not the important part, it’s about dealing with fear. Without challenge a comfort zone will continually shrink.

Dealing with fears holding us back from reaching our goals is a common theme in coaching sessions. When we met, my client mapped out a list of her fears. That was a good starting point. Obviously, riding a roller coaster had nothing to do with her greater goals, however, conquering a fear, any fear, gives us the confidence to maintain momentum. This was clearly evidenced by her closing sentence. She boldly wrote: “I’m off to face my next fear.”

Want to work on eliminating your barriers? Recognize that fears are formed in our minds. We associate doing something with danger, or perhaps we view the outcome as ending in embarrassment, disgrace, failure, etc.

Begin by striving to eliminate the negative and debilitating chatter in your head. It serves no purpose other than to provide excuses as worthless as a pencil devoid of lead.
Broken head of sharp pencil on a white paper

When those noisy demons begin their chant, dismiss them. With no audience to entertain they will quietly exit stage left.

Breathe through your fear. I recently had an opportunity to fly with a friend in his two-seater Piper Cub. Although I knew the man was an accomplished pilot, I felt uneasy and rather skittish as I climbed aboard the bright yellow aircraft. My friend Dave walked me through each step explaining when we hit 60 miles per hour we would lift off. I prepared for the assent into the azure sky by acknowledging my nerves then dismissing them. Next I practiced taking long, slow breaths. With eyes wide open I soon felt the thrill of slow and steady climb. Grinning broadly as we soared around mountains and over sparkling deep lakes, I congratulated myself for not letting trepidation prevent me from enjoying this rare opportunity.


Practice embracing uncertainty. Take smaller risks on a consistent basis, selecting those that will help you conquer your fear. For example, if you fear public speaking, enroll in a Toastmasters class. The Toastmaster environment is supportive allowing a participant to move at his or her own pace. Within time you can be delivering speeches free of knocking knees and sweaty palms.

We all cling to what makes us feel safe. Perhaps it’s time to graduate from living life in a sanctuary. Get ready to leave your security blanket behind. Have you ever seen the classically funny movie Mr. Mom? There is a scene in the film where the stay-at-home dad, played by actor Michael Keaton, convinces his small son to retire his “wooby” which is the child’s word for security blanket. Try visualizing yourself relinquishing an object symbolizing your wooby. Lay the article down, acknowledging your freedom and independence from the protective mantle.

A final thought…borrow a tagline from the Navy Seals. “Get comfortable being uncomfortable.” The idea is to remain focused on the task at hand regardless of the surrounding circumstances. Conditions will not always be ideal. Accept that fact and stay the course.

Feeling more secure about taking the plunge? Great! Meet me at Disneyland. I have a coaster to conquer.