My 88-year-old mother has been a positive, loving, stable, supportive, and giving influence throughout my life.
Money was scarce, but I never felt poor. We lived in a small home in a little steel mill town. Although we struggled, I never heard my parents discuss money concerns. Nor did I know they searched the couch for dimes that may have fallen out of dad’s pocket to pay for his bus rides to work. Never missed having a car. Always felt loved, and secure.
But I never really realized how important that security was, until a few days ago. The backstory is three years ago, when my mother’s dementia became apparent, I moved her to Florida to be near me. My father, who was her prince, and our hero, passed two years prior.
This week something happened. Mom told me she was scared. She asked to go “home.” When I inquired who she wanted to see at home, she said her mother. More of the backstory, both parents were deceased by the time she was three years old, and her sister, age 14, successfully raised my mom and her four siblings.
Have you ever watched your mother cry and say she was scared? This was my first experience seeing mom genuinely afraid. It devastated me. It made me cry.
But, this blog is not about my mother’s experience or how well (or at times not) I deal with her pain. My message is I am a very lucky person. The question is why, and I hope this simple little story is a life lesson.
Lucky, you might think? Dealing with a mother who has dementia?The answer is yes I am a lucky girl. While reflecting on what mom is going through, I realized my parents provided immense security. I never knew about the financial pressure of making ends meet. There was never a time I felt I could not go to my parents. They were always there for me. Although I have always been grateful, I know I have truly been blessed.
Even after my dad passed, as hard as that was, I felt comforted by the very thought of him. Maybe that sounds a bit crazy but you see, he took great care of mom. They watched over each other. Daily I pray he looks down on me, and guides me to make the right decisions for mom.
Today I read a beautiful post written by a young friend of mine, Aimee Tarte, Owner of Lady And The Mug, in Coral Springs, Florida. She wrote:
“No matter what happens in my life, I am at peace because I understand how blessed I am and for that, I’m eternally grateful. Let’s not just be thankful today, but change our mindsets to appreciate the smallest of things we overlook. I’ll always be an optimist and believe in everyone, especially those who have done wrong against me. Serve others, give with a pure heart, and remember how short life is”
That says it all, now doesn’t it?
Take a few moments to STOP and think about your life. What lessons of gratitude can you find that never occurred to you? Think of one small of thing you previously overlooked and post below. I would love your feedback. It could inspire all of us!
A note from Sunny. This blog was written by my dear forever friend, Irma Parone of Parone Group.
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