Getting Over Regrets

Time to move on

Ever suffered one of those bleak, black Mondays? I did recently. Despite my best laid plans, I made a poor decision. It was late Tuesday afternoon when I realized I’d spent the entire morning in worry and regret over the previous day’s happenings.  Immediately I began to talk myself out of this negative reverie. Not only was I practicing poor time management, this ruminating was accomplishing nothing. I needed to stop wasting my time on yesterday.

Regret is a part of life. We don’t get it right every time and consequently end up regretting our decisions, actions and often our words. Hours spent lamenting cannot change the past.

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Life is not a dress rehearsal. It offers no do-over’s. Our only choice is to dispense with the “should haves” and move on.

By the next morning as the desert sun waved it’s powerful rays over the earth, I signaled good-bye to any remaining remorse lingering deep in the corners of my mind.

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Using a trusted process to banish my woes, I transitioned into getting on with the day in a positive mode.

How did I banish my disappointment? By employing a simple two-step process.

  1. Analyze what went wrong. If you dig deep enough you can probably come up with multiple reasons. In my case, attempting to make a quick decision, meant omitting some necessary research. I called myself out for moving too fast and then vowed to slow down. Reminded of the old Yiddish proverb: “Measure 10 times and cut once,” I decided to write it out and post it on my vision board. If I was going to learn from this, I needed to keep it in front of me.
  2. Next, I forgave myself. Sure, it took some self talk. I faced disappointment before and know what it feels like. I also know from experience, by mustering up some fortitude, I can push through it. Assuring myself the error wasn’t fatal enabled me to move on and refocus my energy on accomplishing an item on my to-do list.

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Getting a job done is uplifting and serves to recharge your confidence level.

The next time you stumble and fall, use the situation to rebuild. Take the time to thoroughly uncover where you went off course. Then forgive yourself and move on.

One last thought…Kelly Clarkson sings about it: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” So suck it up and walk a little taller.

13 thoughts to “Getting Over Regrets”

  1. Wow, so odd that you wrote this right now. I have been a little down today. Unlike me, but yet, I am… and then I beat myself up because it is crazyyyyyyy to feel down, for no reason. Just not like me, right?.

    Ok, thanks for the inspiration. I’m over it! You always come through for me, even when you don’t know it!

  2. So timely, I’m reading about regret/failure/revolution right now! This from George Saunders’s commencement address at Suracuse 2013, “what I regret most in my life are failures of kindness. Those moments when another human being was there, in front of me, suffering, and I responded….sensibly. Reservedly. Mildly”. How I understand this – this is regret. Regret does cause reflection…if we choose and this is the silver lining.

    1. That is a GREAT quote. What I’ve done lately is keep a “kindness journal.” I make sure I offer up kindness to at least 3 people daily. By writing this in a journal, it keeps me thinking and acting like a kinder person. Thanks DeAnn for reading Life on the Sunny Side and for your valuable contribution.

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