Recently I interviewed a young man in his early 30’s who was auditioning for a local talent show. He told me for the past seven years he dreamt of mustering up enough courage attend the try-outs. I asked him what provided the impetus to act on this dream. Flashing a wise grin he stated he finally started believing in himself. I heartily applauded that positive statement. Putting yourself out there takes a major dose of self-belief.
If you visit my office, you will notice a large sign that simply states: Believe. I’ve hung it on the wall to remind me and my clients to stop doubting. Too often we give in to self sabotage.
So how do we get beyond our internal negative thoughts? Our 30 something entertainer used a simple technique very powerful in developing and maintaining self esteem. He stopped listening to his nagging inner critic. We all have one. I’ve even given mine a name: Stormy. From time to time my gremlin swoops in over-stocked with gloom and doom, always predicting failure.
I’ve learned to recognize the negative voice in my head and send that bully packing. Like Stormy, all inner gremlins are fear based. They thrive on status quo wanting nothing to do with progress and change.
Successful people possess a commonality regarding belief. They have learned to ignore the critics in their head and staunchly refuse to let an ounce of doubt enter the picture. My six year old niece, Alina, is the poster child for believing she is capable of anything.
The giant-sized moxie in her pint-sized package is most impressive. I’m certain when Alina’s gremlin comes calling she just bursts out in fits of giggles thinking, don’t be silly, of course I can do that.
Whether you’re six or ninety-six, if you are auditioning for a Broadway musical or interviewing for a job as design engineer, the key to accomplishing your dreams is confidence. Internal and external critics cannot drag you down without your consent. You are in control. When your gremlin tries to dissuade you from accomplishing your dreams, remember the sage advice from one of the masters, Vincent Van Gogh, “If you hear a voice within you say you can’t paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.”
Getting ready to put yourself out there and strut your stuff? I applaud you. Begin by flexing your self esteem muscle. Then wear your confidence like armor and rock it!